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From: Leslie ( -
Subject: tough problem
Date: December 2, 2012 at 2:44 pm PST

Want to see what others think of this. I normally keep a vegan home -- we don't have many visitors because we are somewhat isolated from family and friends, but now I may have an issue I'm not sure how to deal with. My husband's family may be coming to stay with us for extended periods of time since he is seriously ill and we may need the help and support of family. My family is, happily, all vegan or vegetarian so it's pretty wonderful when we get together and food isn't even a remote issue. However, his family is just the opposite. When they came here a week ago to visit they actually brought some food with them from their T dinner, I'll let you use your imagination. It was annoying to me but I didn't say anything because I didn't want to make a big issue out of it. However, if they come to stay for extended periods of time (could be weeks to months), how do I deal with their preferences? Are they to be expected to eat in restaurants all the time or to eat whatever I make, which is pretty extreme vegan whole foods everything vegetable and whole grain. Which is delicious to me but foreign to them. Here we are, needing their help and should I impose my ethics on them while they're here? What would you do? The major issue is, of course, my husband's sickness, making an issue out of food seems so trite in view of what we are facing. I thought maybe I'd give them a shelf in the fridge for their cow milk and cheese and eggs and just kind of look the other way, but I really cannot imagine having them actually cook that other stuff in my kitchen, my pots and pans, my house. My home has been vegan for at least 12 years. (My husband rarely eats at home, he has continued his meat eating ways outside of our house, in restaurants, and he's always been OK with that, or I cooked food that I knew he would eat and liked that was vegan). I am quite at a loss. If it wasn't such a serious time in our lives I feel like I could make more of an issue of it, but seriously we are going to need their help and support. What on earth should I do?

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