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From: Jo Stepaniak (
Subject: Re: Dealing with family you love and care about
Date: November 9, 2010 at 6:54 am PST

In Reply to: Re: Dealing with family you love and care about posted by Nancy Harris on November 8, 2010 at 5:52 pm:

Hi, Nancy. I hear your heartache and pain. Unfortunately, as you know all too well, as a grandparent you cannot control what your grandson eats (or believes, or does, or anything else) -- that is his parents' responsibility and decision. Just as you likely made mistake with your own kids, or did things your parents disapproved of, every parent has that same right, even if you or others believe what they are doing is wrong or potentially harmful in the long run.

It seems that your options are fairly limited: You can tell your son and DIL how you feel and explain why you are uncomfortable feeding your grandson their food. Of course, they might take offense at that. On the other hand, it's the only way you can have a meaningful dialogue about it and perhaps find some middle ground where you both can compromise a bit.

Alternatively, if you are not willing to compromise and/or they are not, your choice is to continue with things as they currently stand or discontinue babysitting your grandson. These are not easy choices, but they are your only options ... unless you and your son and DIL have an honest discussion and can figure out a way to meet in the middle.

Best of luck to you. Please let us know how things turn out.


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