I understand your scenario. My opinion is that vegan is too extreme. Like you mentioned, it will be near impossible to go out to restaraunts. Not to mention, it would be mighty picky to ask "is there any dairy products in this? how about that? etc.."
I chose vegetarianism because I dont believe in the killing of animals for my stomach. Taking milk from a cow, or taking infertile eggs from a chicken does not kill the animal. Well, thats my opinion. If you can be HEALTHY and a vegan at the same time, and enjoy the limitations of your meals, then go for it! But for me, veganism is too expensive, and not representing of my views. Also, if you're going for true veganism, you have to buy vegan shampoo, because most shampoos have animal byproducts in them. Good luck in what ever you choose to do! ;) one love