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From:	LoveTX (173.74.147.87)
Subject:	Embarrassing, but here goes...need advice on sex w/overweight BF
Date:	July 12, 2009 at 9:56 am PST

Hi everyone,
I've lurked here off and on for several years now and y'all seem to have the most sensible advice, so now it's my turn to ask...

I'm a 43-yo female in good shape. I enjoy working out and living a healthy lifestyle without being 'in your face' about it. I'm a single mom of three and I have a boyfriend of just over a year. BTW I'm 5ft 5.5 in and weigh about 140-145. My BF, who I love dearly, is 6 ft 6 and weighs about 300. I love him for who he is, and he was that size when I met him. We are very compatible in many areas and I have just looked past the weight thing. I figure that maybe I can inspire him one day to get in shape but I'm not going to shove it down his throat. Change only comes when the person changing is doing it for him or her self.

Now the problem. When we first started dating he was pretty active in bed. Not hanging from the chandeliers, mind you, but he could keep up. But now, it's like he only wants to do it one way - me on top - and not only is it getting to be boring, but I cannot comfortably spread my legs that far for any length of time, so thus, I am the one who ends up frustrated. I've talked to him about how much I like variety and different positions and such, but he just ignores it. He's become an unbelievably lazy lover and I am tired of doing all the work. And what's even more frustrating - he LOVES the fact that I can do all the work for both of us, so he has no motivation to do anything different.

I don't want to leave him because I do love him, but I'm getting bored with the sex that he can't seem to get enough of. I would really appreciate any feedback you might have. Thanks in advance for your help!

Love

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