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From:	Freaked Out (186-100-14-210.tsninternet.com.au)
Subject:	Unexpected sexual attention from a married man.....
Date:	February 20, 2008 at 7:14 pm PST

Ok, I have these friends who are a married couple. I was close to both of them - probably roughly equally close to each.

I tend to see them at seperate times because I see the man through work and socialise with the woman through child-oriented activities (we're both mothers).

Anyway it seemed to be really all fine until a week or so ago.

The man and I had a really jocular relationship - forever cracking jokes, fooling about. Both of us have a real toilet humour - we joke about bollocks and poo etc. Very infantile, stupid humour. We also act like notmal human beings a good percentage of the time.

Anyway, the man and I were exchanging text messages, cracking our usual distasteful jokes, when all of a sudden it took this really sexual tone. He suddenly got really personal and I didn't see it coming AT ALL. Anyway, I didn't know how to react.

Maybe I should have just told him it was too much, but I didn't want to be rude - which is a stupid excuse I know.

I also was so shocked I wondered if I were making too big a deal, after all it was all just stupid joking.

So I tried to deflect the attention off myself while still joking around, which was maybe not the best way to handle it - I know it sounds stupid but I didn't know what else to do.

Anyway, since then both members of the couple have been kinda distant, and maybe I'm taking it too personally. But I wonder if that's why.

I've been feeling really horrible ever since it happened - kind of guilty. I didn't handle it very well. It was seriously such a shock. I know for a fact that I never saw it coming. Which was probably stupid. I know male brains are wired very differently to women's. In my mind we were just cracking stupid jokes but maybe he thought it was some kind of weird flirting. I don't know.

I have no interested in messing with their marriage or anything like that. Both of them are my friends and that's what I still want. To be friends.

I'm feeling just dreadful about the whole thing. I'm not even sure if I'm making a big deal out of nothing, it is seriously so weird.

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