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From:	annemarie (pool-71-121-139-87.sttlwa.dsl-w.verizon.net)
Subject:	Am I overreacting?
Date:	June 11, 2007 at 9:42 am PST

I've been casually dating someone for a few months now. Our friendship has been based on mutual respect and consideration to this point. This guy "Jim", has always been thoughtful and conscientious, until this weekend, that is. When we saw each other on Friday, he said he wanted to see me on Sunday, but we didn't talk about the particulars. I assumed I'd hear from him either via email or phone sometime on Saturday, or even Sunday morning. I didn't. So I sent him an email yesterday letting him know that since I hadn't heard from him, I assumed the plans were off. I also added that an email or call would've been nice, if he was able. So he responded last night letting me know that as he had just moved, his cable wasn't hooked up as he expected and not only that, his phone had been dead, saying he was sorry. I responded that he had all day Saturday AND yesterday to find a way to get a hold of me. I KNOW that he charges his cell phone in his car, so whatever that means.... Anyway, I stated that as he knows my last name, he could have called information on his roommate's phone at least. His response: " My position is thus: It's been an extremely hard weekend. Moving in and out of here and there, getting caught up in crap I had no interest in, but when other people drive you lose control of your destiny till you get back to your car, locking myself out of my workplace...with my keys inside! getting my debit card but forgetting my damned pin number! GRRR! Dealing with people who are too pushy and making demands on my time when I don't have any to spare, etc. And, no, I don't mean you. OTHER people have been extremely demanding and impatient with me this weekend. Why? I'm frigging busy as hell, that's why.

So, for you I say this: I've apologized. I was very briefly online at work, before locking myself outside. My phone hasn't been completely dead, but it's not working the way I expect it to, either. The charge keeps failing. It's the reason I got a new phone to begin with.

Now, if you feel that you want to pack up your marbles and play elsewhere, hun, you are a big kid and know your mind best.
All I can tell you is that I am the way I am. This is me. Like it or don't. I usually think about me and my immediate issues first, everything else second. When my issues are taking up all my mental/emotional space, things fall through the cracks.

Last apology is right here: I'm sorry hun."

To me, this sounds like a cop-out. I feel his actions speak loud and clear. He just isn't that into me. Your thoughts?

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