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I haven't been on this board in a LONG time, but have always appreciated your insights. I am 40, divorced for a year from a 17-yr marriage, separated for a year and a half before that. I have three kids, two girls ages 14 and 12 and my son is nine. I was a stay-at-home homeschool mom before their dad and I split up. A year ago I met a man, shortly after my divorce was final. We dated once, then I gave him the brush off. We remained good friends then started dating again in Oct. and we've been together ever since. He lives 3 hrs away. We see each other a couple to three times a month for a couple of days at a time. We've committed to each other and have resolved to see this through, until one of us decides to move. My question: the boyfriend sees my kids as less than perfect. All three kids are argumenative and can be, at times, very spoiled. I've tried to be loving and firm, but I still get a lot of talk=back and sassiness. In all honesty, I do not do a very good job of controlling my own tongue, and I am now reaping the effects of that, and I understand that. However, the boyfriend spent 11 years in the Navy, and when you add that to the fact that he is very focused on not compromising ANYTHING after his marriage fell apart, he can be very perfectionistic. He says he cannot stand how my kids talk back to me, and that he doesn't know how much longer he can take it. Let me add that, as wonderful as I think he is, he can be moody and very high-maintenance emotionally. He doesn't understand how I can't see what he's talking about, and I don't understand how he can make judgments based on four weekends (that's all the time he's spent with my kids). He also has a five-year old daughter that he thinks is a perfect princess, even though he's had to take her out of restaurants physically when she starts screaming because they're out of ketchup packets. I'd love a man's opinion, especially one who's integrated into another family. I'd also love some insight from those moms who've felt in the middle between their boyfriend/husband and their own kids. But I'd love input from anyone with some god ideas, too! This is a terrific board. Thanks in advance! DM
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