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From:	Leslie (cpe-69-76-1-3.natnow.res.rr.com)
Subject:	Our culture
Date:	December 21, 2007 at 7:36 am PST

In Reply to: Further on the big daycare study posted by Jess (NZ) on November 13, 2007 at 11:30 pm:

This is one of those things that is over-studied, over-analyzed, to the point of something that fits the expression "you can't see the forest for the trees."

There is truly something wrong when a daycare is preferred over a caring grandparent for a child just a few years old.

I realize you need proof and all that, studies, etc. etc., but, quite frankly, it doesn't take a brain surgeon to realize that the best place for a child is with a caring parent or, next best, relative. A daycare provider simply cannot provide what a child needs beyond the basics of food and safety.

In our culture, we have been putting values on the wrong things. Children suffer for our inadequacies, for the realities of our financial existence, for our immaturity. I am no exception, I was a single mother and although I considered myself an excellent mother, my son does show in his personality the lack of having a father figure. There is just no way around it, it's the way it was, and is.

There is no doubt that children need both parents, that they need to be home longer, that our society sadly pushes parents to both work out of necessity, sacrificing something precious that sometimes we can only see upon looking backward.

To some things there are no answers. But I do know that everything should be done to keep children home as long as possible, that time is so short and so important. It is proven that personalities are formed by the time a child is 3 years old -- who do you want forming that personality?

Good luck finding studies, you sound like someone who would be so much better than a daycare, even a good daycare. It's just crazy.

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