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From:	OceanMama (user-69-73-115-253.knology.net)
Subject:	LOVE the name
Date:	October 7, 2005 at 6:08 am PST

In Reply to: Thank you all for your input. We didn't do it. posted by beegaza on October 2, 2005 at 2:36 pm:

Congrats! I'm so glad he's here safe, sound, and intact. I know I'm here a little late for the discussion, but I just wanted to add two things:

My husband had a botched circumcision as a child and had to have several surgeries when he was younger. The sensitivity is pretty much nill. So while mistakes are rare, they do happen--- and it's heartbreaking for the people and parents they happen to.

My brother, who is not circumcised, is in complete support of non-circing (whereas doctors would have you believe all intact males regret deeply how "different" they are) and told me this story when I expressed fears about my son's being "different": "If you're in a locker room with a bunch of guys, and one of them says 'Hey look! So-and-so's not circumcisd!' then it means he was LOOKING at you. Nobody's ever going to admit that. So don't even worry about it!" Which I thought made pretty good sense in the juvenile male mind. (Originally I used the correct term for the male sexual anatomy, the one that begins with a P. Vegsource made me deleted it, ROFL. It seems funny to think of having a conversation about circumcision without mentioning the P.)

I have high hopes that in the future we will view male circumcision with the same horror with which we now view female circumcision. I have many articles comparing the two and frankly it's sickening. Also, there are countless doctors and people over there who say things like "It's not mutilation, it's medically necessary" and things like that. Arthur C. Clarke wrote a book in which a modern man is put into a sleep and wakes up 1000 years later in a time in which circumcision is an anathema and he is viewed as horribly mutilated. Hopefully one day our western minds will pull themselves out of this obsessed phase and stand up for our baby boys.

Good luck with Freya and baby brother. We had a little of that when Isadora was born. I found it was helpful to say "When you were a baby, I did such and such for you!" and since you'll be having to tell Freya so often that you need to do something with the baby, try telling the baby sometimes "I'm going to do something special with Freya now" (even if the little boy is sleeping) so that things will even out. It's worked pretty well for us to keep the delicate balance of those little feelings. ;)

Amelia

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