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From: Echo ( -
Subject: need an ear.....
Date: July 2, 2009 at 6:06 pm PST

Hi Ladies,

I was interested in finding a walking buddy in my area so posted this on a local internet site. I was fortunate to have 3 women around my age respond to my ad and so far I have met two of them. (The third one was a no show so don't know what happened there.)

Both women seem really great and I instantly felt really comfortable with each of them. One of them I have already been out walking with a couple of times and we are at about the same fitness level so all is good.

The other one I also felt very comfortable with right from the start, we met at a local coffee shop chatted for about 1/2 an hour and then went for a walk. She has 3 kids and a couple of grandchildren. When she mentioned that one of her daughters was going to spend the summer with her dad, I asked her "So does that mean you are single?" She said no that she was living with her lifetime partner and she and her had been together for about 5 years. I nodded my head and carried on like it was no big deal. AND I know it's not a big deal....I've just never experienced this before having a friendship with a woman who is gay.

I'm not passing judgment, I've had male friends in the past that I knew where gay but I've never had a female friend who was and I admit it makes me feel a little awkward. Probably just because it's just a new experience for me and I'm sure that once we get to know each other more I will be fine with it. I mean I instantly liked her, found her attractive, (not in a sexual way) and if I didn't know this about her everything would be great but because I do know I now feel I have to behave differently or I have to be more guarded or something....I don't know.

Because of this I haven't contacted her to set up a second walking date.

Can anyone relate, and say something to help me sort out my feelings here? I guess what I am "afraid" of, is that she might hit on me, which is probably insane and quite laughable if she had any idea that I'm struggling with this but like I said, now that I know I just feel awkward around her.

I feel silly even talking about this....but if anyone can offer any advice I'd appreciate it.


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