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From:	Savannah (sba8.sba.nau.edu)
Subject:	Re: undereating
Date:	December 13, 2005 at 9:58 am PST

In Reply to: undereating posted by formerETLer on December 11, 2005 at 11:14 am:

Hi FETLer,

I'd like to offer my condolences on the loss of your mother, and second what Rocket Scientist said: the death of any loved one is a huge impact, but a primary family member (and, I think, particularly our mothers), well the impact can't be overestimated.

It being a mere 2 months since she passed a way is only an eye blink to our hearts, in my opinion. So, again I second RS's ideas: go easy on yourself and allow whatever foods comfort and sustain you for now. When I was grieving over a death several years ago, all I wanted to eat was popcorn for a couple of weeks. Earlier this year a very dear friend passed away and I, too, ended up veering toward fruit and soup -- simple sustenance/existence for awhile.

Our culture is so geared away from acknowledgement of death and the grief that needs to be allowed, made room for, respected, and even honored. I don't know how much grace your particular "family culture" has taught you, so I'll just throw this out here in case it might be helpful: I read a book called, "Grief Without Apology" that helped me a great deal.

Blessings,
Savannah

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