Vegan Deli

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Raising Vegetarian Children
by Jo Stepaniak, M.S.Ed., & Vesanto Melina M.S., R.D.

Raising Vegetarian Children

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Visiting Relatives

When I go home for the holidays, it's always an adventure. In the past, I have prepared as if going into battle. "What will I say if *they* say....?" If they fire first, then I've got the right to say anything, or so I used to believe. Now I take a much more relaxed view and answer inquiries as honestly as possible, without being defensive or confrontational. Keeping quiet and sticking to my guns (so to speak), I can see the wheels turning--"What if she is right?"

I want my relatives to question the information I have shared with them in the past. I want them to wonder about the animals they are eating and the cow's milk they are consuming in nearly every dish. Yet I don't take the opportunity to point this out to them directly and constantly, as I would when I was new to veganism and my fervor was high. Now I delight in giving simple, to-the-point answers. For instance, when my Aunt Caroline demands, "Don't you ever miss any of the normal stuff you used to eat?", I tell her politely, "Yes, sometimes I do." After hearing that, she fumes and wants to know why I will not eat these foods. Then we have to discuss the real "whys and hows" of this "crazy vegetarian thing."

I have achieved my goal. When it comes down to it, my only objective is to spend quality time with my family. I have become less concerned about when I'll get a point in for veganism and more anxious about when I'll get to see and connect with the people I am close with again. Being vegan ultimately has let me see what the holidays really are about. I started out on one mission and discovered a different mission.

I want to educate people only if they want to hear what I have to say. I want to create healthy and delicious food for the people I love without demeaning them or suggesting that they somehow are wrong in their views. I am glad that my compassion for animals has brought me to this place of compassion for the spirit of Thanksgiving and Christmas. Now I can search for more ways to make peace with human beings, thanks to my dedication to animals.

Heather C.
Ohio

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