I don't like to share. I don't know whether it is selfishness (it's hard to part with a yummy vegan muffin) or selflessness (I don't want to force my beliefs on others). When sharing, there is always the fear of rejection. Essentially, sharing is saying "this is who I am, this is what I like." If someone doesn't respond "Me too!" we either feel we must reject them, or we feel rejected. Because of this, we tend to gravitate towards people who share the same interests and beliefs. This is fine when picking out a movie or trying to decide what to have for dinner, but mutual appreciation isn't sharing. The "other" becomes unknown and slightly scary.
It's not surprising that people are put off by my veganess and I'm more than miffed at their meat. People should share without the fear of being preachy or rejected. I share many interests and beliefs with my husband Michael, but we do not have everything in common. Yet because we have a base of love and respect, we aren't afraid to share what interests only one of us. After all, it isn't a personal insult if someone doesn't share my zeal for couscous. So maybe I just need to redefine sharing. And make a double batch of muffins.
Carrie Lynn C.
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