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From:	RC Dana (206.80.12.3)
Subject:	My true life experince - caution, not PC
Date:	June 16, 2009 at 2:57 pm PST

In Reply to: Child given Medical Cannabis posted by Jaq on June 8, 2009 at 6:01 am:

First of all, let me say that if there is truly no hope, then use anything to ease pain. Not being in the parent's shoes, I cannot say. But does the boy truly have no other other recourse? Maybe they are giving up too early. Maybe they have a "pro medicinal pot" agenda and the kid is a pawn.

For healthy people, based on my life experience I truly believe this drug has deadly side effects.

I know from having been married to two terrible pot heads over the course of 32 years that pot is an addictive drug, I don't care what the official line is, and side effects include leaving folks stupid, non-creative, unambitious, often sterile, boring, inept at making good decisions, and willing to sacrifice almost anything for a joint. They seem to become incapable of any independent thought and will echo whatever is "going around". Of course, it's always "pro" pot! They always deny how bad a drug marijuana really is - that would mean they might have to change their behavior.

That next joint means everything to a pothead. I can't tell you how many movies, fun events, family events, etc. were cut short by their need for a joint. Even really important things, like education, good communication and trust with a spouse, hospital visits to dying relatives, take a back seat. After a while, life is just easier without a pothead around, so I would go to such events alone. That was always fine with them, of course. More time to toke up!

Potheads often have financial difficulties (a lid costs a lot more than $15 now!!). They frequently cannot keep a job. There is also the bronchitis and other breathing difficulties it causes, poor diets due to poor impulse control, etc lead to weight problems, skin problems, heart problems, etc. They become sterile and impotent, men often develop breasts. I am sorry, they also get stupider and physically uglier as time goes on. The media tries to make light of it, but it is not really funny. It's tragic.

I stopped doing this drug and all others back in 1978, but it is telling of my personal problems that I still put up with this until my bio-clock warned me about time running out for having a baby. In 1989 I successfully banned pot and other drugs from my home, and for the most part my second husband complied enough for us to get pregnant. In 1992, we succeeded in having a child. He never stopped doing pot outside the home and never stopped begging me to join him, even though we had a little child around.

I frequently warned him that if he got busted, I would not bail him out of jail. I had to work during my daughter's childhood because a lot of money went to pot. That meant daycare for her, which I had to pay for. I always worried when he took her to his place of work (self-employed) that she would be in the presence of this drug use, or worse, suffer neglect, while he and cronies went outside the building to smoke pot and do drugs.

I quit my job at a certain point to see if he would step up to the bat and take care of us. It was financially harder because that pot had to be purchased even though he denied he bought it. Of course, our life style suffered! We nearly divorced several times; my daughter, who unfortunately did witness this behavior on the rare occasions I allowed her to go with him to his job, states that she wishes we had divorced since we fought so much. He sometimes snuck drugs into the house, which if I found them would go down the toilet, and we would fight about the lying as well as the loss of "money" died up in the flushed stuff.

We could not really get along and I had this stupid idea that a child needs a father. Of course, a child needs a PRESENT father, not one whacked out on drugs.

Sorry, from what I have witnessed,I would say that a druggie mom is even worse and should have her kids taken away from her because her influence is much more profound.

Not being able to trust someone definitely puts a kink in marriage. Of course, both these dudes I had married later graduated to experimenting with harder drugs. After I left him, my 1st husband found another woman to support him while he made nominal money being a street vendor. My 2nd husband had a stroke 2 years ago from an imfarct (?spelling) caused in major part from some form of cocaine (according to the hospital). He recovered from this stroke, but died 2 months later due to an accident caused by pot and other drugs.

I like what my daughter says, although it makes me sad. She says, "I don't want to even talk to a pothead. Once I find out someone I know smokes pot, drinks or anything like that, I just drop them. I already did my time with that and I am not wasting any more time" She's so right.

So yes, go ahead and legalize it because the lost are the lost. If it weren't pot, it would be something else. Just don't fool ourselves about how "good" it is.

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