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Subject:         His story...Be prepared to be ticked at the nerve of some parents in this world!
Date: August 15, 2006 at 5:46 pm PST

In Reply to: How is it to add another teen in your family? posted by d.j. on August 15, 2006 at 4:04 pm:

Ok, first thing to tell you is that this young man was near and dear to my heart before we took him in. He was a bowling team mate of Krisi's on the high school team last year. As the season went on, they became friends and eventually...boyfriend and girl friend. *this is the part where I pause for some of you to catch your breath* Breathing again? LOL Yes, Clint is Kristin's boyfriend.

That single fact was the only reason we didn't say yes to him living with us right away. But, how he came to live with us first...

You would have had one heck of a fight on your hands if you had ever told me that his home would become violent. His step-mom was as nice as could be, his dad really nice. Quiet, but nice. A series of lies that Clint told got out of control one Saturday afternoon, when the pushing and shoving started and the words flying...Clint was physically assaulted. One of the parents was arrested and Clint was thrown out of his home because of it.

Now, I said it all escalated due to lies the child told. Keep this in mind: First, he knows that all of the lying was wrong and shouldn't have happened no matter the reason. However, he lied because his father and step-mother were trying to keep him going to see his mother up north this summer...he HAD to work. When it all came out, dad is over $19k behind in child support. When dad and step-mom filed taxes this year, their return was seized by the IRS and is being sent to mom to go toward the arrearage. They told him THAT was his money to see mom. They also started banning him from youth activities at church. He could go to church, but that was it.

AnyWHO, his mother, who was awarded full custody and had him for 12 years without his dad EVER seeing him, got emergency custody granted to her in July. He went home with her, was miserable and she called to ask if he could live here with us. We consented.

We have temporary guardianship through a Power-of-Attorney. We have him seeing a Christian Counsellor (and have the bills going to his DAD who is financially responsible per the divorce decree!) and we are still encouraging him to try to talk to his dad. But, when he sent an e-mail last week, finally trying to establish contact...his dad emailed back a nasty email, cutting the childs desire to talk to his dad ever again and putting my efforts back at square one.

So, how is it having another teen in the house? Depends on how you look at it and how much he has thought about his situation on any given day. How are the kids accepting him? Clint is like their brothers (the boys that is)...he is like, well, a boyfriend to Krisi! LOL

We monitor the 2 of them. With after school sports practice, they are never at home alone. There is always some one with them. That is a standing order. Failure to abide by it is immediate "deportation". We allow them to go out on dates, that is what teenagers do. We also allow Clint to have his time...and Krisi has hers too.

As for him going to church with us...Yes, he does. But, he didn't go to church anywhere until he met Kristin. By meeting Kristin and going to church, he became a christian.

Pray for Clint please. I love him like he was my own. I worry about him. Todays session with the counsellor was good for him. He was able to talk and be heard without fearing any kind of judgement. He needed that.

Any more questions? :)


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