Having adopted 4 children from the U.S., two babies and two older children (7 & 9) - I can tell you that the "millions" of children needing homes are just not available for adoption. The foster system, the courts, and society in general make it close to impossible to adopt the children that really NEED it. When I watch shows that parade wonderful, polite children who "just want a family," across the stage and encourage everyone to participate....it makes me shudder. I have had one of the more mild experiences with adopting older children, and mine has been horrifying and heartbreaking....so far. The "system" often pulls the bait and switch game, they lie or don't tell all that you need to know to parent the children that they eventually give you. The birthparents are given chance after chance and each moment that the child spends in the abusive, drug infested home, takes them further away from potential wholeness and healing. The longer they spend in the system, the longer it takes to get the system out of them. I have MUCH experience with this. The story isn't finished yet, because I believe that God will heal, but that is all I hang onto. So don't believe all of the sad tales you hear about these so-called "millions of children" needing homes. It is true, in that they should not be with their family of origin, but it is NOT true because the system won't do what is best for the child. -just my two cents worth!
