I am truly surprised and rarely shocked any more when i read peoples notions on various subjects. I think the lamen have an excuse of ignorance, though the educated and titled 'experts' do not. Those can only be arrogance or stupidity as these people are noted to be educating us at a high level. How high? Is the question. Or how far down the rabbit hole? Would be the next.
Statements like "some things cannot be forgiven", "some people need to forgive more than others","forgiveness is the key to happiness, inner peace, is what will heal the world and nothing else" are an indication of society generally, and is certainly indicitive of the limiting beliefs and subsequent evolvement of the masses.
Forgiveness is an illusion. It indicates ingratitude, a lop sided awareness, fear and guilt. There is no one to blame, no one is wrong and we are not judge and jury or God dealing out justifiable punishment. We are here to love and be grateful for what ever we create or is created for us. Forgiveness is above fear and guilt and its also below love, appreciation and gratitude.
While there is a vitim there is a perpertraitor, while there is wrong there is right. How about if all is balanced equilibrium of compary opposites that we attract to elevate us to a greater understanding of true love and true gratitude.
The marriage vows do not say for in health only or for worse only. The marriage vows embrace the true dynamics of human psychology not some one sided dellusion of pain OR pleasure, victim OR assailant, right OR wrong. There is a synthesis of opposite in all moments, like hot AND cold, war AND peace, life AND death. Swap the OR with AND, and you will start to illuminate yourself and start the process of clear sightedness and the divine hidden order that loves you.
See how your experience benefits, serves and blesses you and others with love and subsequencial gratitude, which is by far a greater paradigmn to live by than some fantasy of you are wrong and i forgive you. Nothing is only wrong, its also right to others. Nothing needs forgiving as its perfect to teach you and love you as it is.
Everything is love-all else is an illusion.xsx.

when we judge others harshly it is just a projection of our own self loathing onto them; and when we forgive others it actually has nothing to do with what they have done, we are actually forgiving ourselves, we are forgiving our projections onto them of our own guilt. that being said, i agree with you that love is all there is and that everything that is not of love is an illusion and is not real. And I agree that the place to get to is to appreciate that there is nothing to forgive since anything that isn't of love didn't really happen. However, these concepts are very difficult for most people to embrace which is why forgiveness has a purpose as a temporary learning device that can help people get to the truth that only love is real. just as a baby must crawl before it can walk, so must we utilize the power of forgiveness as we crawl towards God, Light and Love.

I don't mind people disagreeing with me but it does bother me when people puts words in my mouth. I made no suggestion or implication of "crawling towards God." And I do not assume that my path towards God, Love and Inner Peace is the only path there is. And in regard to John Lennon's song, Imagine: (1) It is a great song, a great inspiration, a great truth, and he was a great man; and (2) We need to go beyond imagining, which is a good first step, and start applying the ideals every day with everyone in our lives. Happy new year.